Why do you become more and more emotionally unstable after falling in love?

The answer is that some people are deliberately driving you crazy.

I have said before that if you are with a man and your emotions start to become increasingly unstable, then from a psychological point of view, there must be something wrong with this person, or there must be something wrong with your relationship.

Because of the nature of emotional instability, to put it bluntly, when you are with him, something triggers your insecurity.

Generally speaking, there are two situations. First, the other person's behavior offends your insecurity.

For example, if the other person does not respond to your emotions directly, and always chooses to avoid or downplay any conflicts between you, and ignores your emotions, then I believe that even if you are an expert in emotion management, it is impossible to always remain calm and composed.

You will never win an argument with them because they will only focus on their own interests, say what they want to say, and don't care at all about what you are expressing.

They will only drive you crazy in a way that you are completely unaware of, and then quietly watch you break down, watch you go crazy, and label you as emotionally unstable. The essence of your insecurity at this time is that they do not meet your basic communication needs.

It makes you feel ignored and denied.

I have said that the essence of human beings is to seek to be seen.

So if the other person always ignores you and doesn't respond to your emotions directly, it will trigger your subconscious insecurity over time.

Because when you are in love, it means two adults regress to infancy.

At this time, you will desire to be held by the other person, so you will try very hard to hold on to the other person, trying to find resonance from the other person to gain a sense of security. Once you don’t get it, you will fall into deep fear and anxiety.

So if you used to be a mild-tempered, reasonable, and emotionally stable person, now you are often driven hysterical by the other party.

Then don't doubt it, it's not your problem, it's that you met the wrong person.