1. Emotions are not the enemy, but warning signals from the body. Anxiety, sadness, and anger are not "being dramatic." The core of psychology: emotions are neither good nor bad, only different in function. Anxiety reminds you to pay attention to risks, sadness helps you let go of obsessions, and anger protects your boundaries. Don't forcibly suppress them; allow them to exist first, then gradually guide them, which will actually lead to greater peace. 2. The more you try to "not be nervous," the more nervous you become (the white bear effect). The more you consciously suppress a thought (don't panic, don't be sad, don't think bad things), the more your brain will repeatedly remind you. Simple solution: Don't fight it, gently accept it. Silently repeat: I'm a little nervous right now, it's okay, being nervous can also help me do good things. 3. Excessive reflection = self-destructive internal conflict; learn to "separate tasks." Many people are tired not because they have too many things to do, but because they are constantly agonizing over: what do others think of me? Did I do something wrong? Adlerian psychology: Distinguish whose responsibility it is – my emotions and choices: my tasks – others' evaluations and perspectives: others' tasks. Don't interfere with others, don't dwell on evaluations, and you'll instantly reduce internal conflict by 80%. 4. Chronic insomnia, irritability, and frequent daydreaming are not signs of laziness, but rather psychological overload. When stress accumulates, the brain automatically enters a "power-saving mode": reluctance to move, reluctance to speak, easy breakdowns, and poor sleep. Don't force yourself to cheer up; start with small relaxation exercises: take two minutes of deep breaths, sit quietly with your eyes closed, or walk for five minutes. Release the stress first, then focus on effort. 5. When praising someone, don't praise their intelligence, praise their effort (Rosenthal effect). People frequently praised for their "intelligence" are afraid of failure and hesitant to try; those praised for their "hard work and perseverance" become more resilient and willing to persevere. A universal formula for education/relationships: affirm the process + acknowledge the effort + encourage for the next time.