That's absolutely right. Loving yourself is never as simple as just buying yourself things or treating you to good food. More importantly: - Allowing yourself to feel sad, angry, and tired - Not forcing yourself to be sensible, pleasing, or putting on a brave face - Resting when you're tired, and remaining silent when you don't want to respond - Putting your own feelings first. Material things provide confidence, but emotional well-being brings peace of mind. Taking good care of that easily hurt and easily softened self is more important than anything else.